not surviving a close relationship

He is an idiot....

That's what I am thinking now. I have thought a lot of times to go away. I´m lacking the balls.
I am so attached and have lost myself for a long time, that I don´t know what to do.
I´m fed up of being the "maid". Cleaning, washing, cooking, waiting....
It sucks! This town sucks! There is nothing to do, and it´s so cold! I can´t  just go for a walk.
I don´t like being in Nuuk, Greenland.
It´s boring!

I am trapped.

I am the last person he thinks about. I am not important for him... So... why am I here???

because I lack the balls to go!

because I think there is going to be a change... I am naive....

It sucks!

I'm back! but not surviving a LDR for now :(

I was visiting my family... and now I am in Denmark visiting my parents in law (and learning some danish).

I haven´t been talking too much with my husband lately. Now the time difference is not helping us. When he is online I just want to go to bed and sleep!

Today we were finally at the same time online... but after we crossed some words he told me that he was going out to help a friend with "something".

I get so mad when this happens!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Is like he can make appointments with the rest but not with me!! Which hit me directly into my EGO!!!

Every day I don´t talk with him is like.. we are just growing apart...so much!!!!!!

I don´t really know what to do... setting a time is so difficult for him... I am just feeling like ignoring him for the next week and see what  happens...  probably he will not care!

No formal date = no waiting online

When I didn´t manage to set a date because it was very difficult for him to tell me a day, I decided not to show up online as often as I used to.

The result: He started to email me and ask me what was going on??!! I got plenty of emails like never before and he actually told me that he missed me :)

He even asked me why I was not online and I told him that I was on the beach... then he asked me about my priorities. I was in shock since he is always going with his friends and leave the online time as the last priority. ha!! how does it feel PUNK ;)

If you can set a date PERFECT, if you can´t follow this tip. 

Happy new year!!

Three simple rules in life:

1. If you do not go after what you want, you will never have it;
2. If you don't ask, the answer will always be no;
3. If you do not step forward, you'll always be in the same place.

I didn´t manage to set a date :( 

So now I am not sitting in front of the screen to see if he appears online. I am keeping myself busy so I don´t actually have time to use the computer.  

I talked with my cousin today about our partners that are always arriving late. And I wonder why women are always giving a lot and receiving less???? Why do we have to deal with the men that always arrive late and are selfish. Is it our nature to put everyone else first? 

I have tried so many things to improve my partners' estimation of time... you have no idea how many times I have been reheating the food waiting for him. 

He says I am leaving the office now and one and a half hours later he calls and says I am sending the last email and I will be on my way

me: You said you were on your way 1.5 hours ago!!!

him: yes, yes, but something popped up and it was urgent, but don´t worry I am on my way now.

That has happened at least one time every week in 9 months.

First I was really angry with him. Then I was calculating 30 minutes more from the time he was saying he was going to arrive. Then 1 more hour. I talked with him in a nice way and in a bad way. I started to arrive later than I was suppose to arrive. I told him that the appointment was 1 hour before the real time... I also tried to "punish" him not having sex. I had food without waiting for him... last one was having $1 for every minute he was late, I have to admit that is a funny one and I will keep trying with that one.

Girls my advice is have a consideration time, wait 10 minutes and if he doesn´t arrive call him and hear what is the problem. If he makes you wait more move on and continue with what ever you want to do. Don´t get angry, you are just wasting your energy and not solving anything. 

I have been surviving a long distance relationship for 4 years!

I met the guy almost 6 years ago and now we have been married 1.5 years. How long have we been living together? Difficult question, at the beginning it was 3 months in a row because that is what a tourist visa allows you to stay in the EU. But when he moved to Greenland we started to ask for my permission to stay longer so let´s say we have been living together in a row for 2.5 years with some time apart when I visit my family in my country. 

So I have been surviving a long distance relationship for 4 years!  and I still do it when I travel outside Greenland, like right now that I came to my country to spend X-mas with my family.

Technology is a great tool, but it can also be frustrating to check your emails (almost too much) to see if you have received something from your love. I need to accept that I have an addiction for checking my emails or look into the skype list to see if he is online. Yesterday I received an sms telling me that he was on his way home, meaning time for chatting :) but I was having food with my family. When I finally got online I had an email where he wrote that he was very tired and considering going to sleep but that he was taking the computer to bed. So I got online and he was "available" in the chat... but he never answered... he was sleeping. The day before that he also got online at night but after chatting 1 minute he told me that he was very tired and going to sleep! We have been apart 1 week now and we haven´t been able to have a nice conversation. One week is not bad but I fear that the situation is going to be the same for the rest of our time apart.

Now I am trying a new thing. I have read that setting up "online dates" is good for the long distance relationship. So I am going to try it. 

Cultural shock

I decided to blog because I believe there are many of you facing a long distance relationship. Is not unusual  to find couples with different nationalities having a relationship nowadays. Long distance and multicultural relationships are not easy, my case: Latin-american having a relationship with a Scandinavian, living in Greenland. Here is my story and how I have been surviving.

A few months ago I met a polish girl while we were doing a boat transfer in the Melville Bay (Greenland). I was not sure if it was worthy to really start a conversation with her because she was going in a different boat and our time together was limited. I was wrong! our few hours together opened my eyes and I learned that I was not alone and "suffering" with the cultural differences of dating a Scandinavian guy. In those few hours we shared the situations we found annoying and discovered that it was probably a cultural thing and not lack of education (I guess).

I will give you an example: me and my partner are walking on the street, he meets someone and start talking in their native language, which I don´t understand. He doesn´t introduce me to the person and keeps talking for more that 10 minutes while I am standing like an invisible ninja having no clue of what´s going on. In my world when you meet someone on the street and your partner, friend, family, etc is with you, the first thing you do is to introduce each other. The first times I stood there and smile while feeling very awkward, ignored and not worthy to be presented to my partners´ friends. After facing that situation more than 5 times, I started to continue my path to let my partner know that it was not agreeing in standing next to him as a ninja. He didn´t get it at all, so I explained the situation and how I felt about not being introduced and not knowing what was going on or who the person was. Did something changed??? not immediately!!